MORE ABOUT FORGIVENESS…just because. 

What Is Forgiveness

• Forgiveness is for you and not for your partner.
• Forgiveness is taking back your power from being wounded.
• Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel now.
• Forgiveness is about your healing and not about your partner’s action.
• Forgiveness is a trainable skill, just like learning to throw a baseball.
• Forgiveness helps you get control over your feelings today.
• Forgiveness can improve your mental and physical health.
• Forgiveness is becoming a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell about what happened.
• Forgiveness is a choice you make. Everyone can learn to forgive.
• Forgiveness is about today and not yesterday.
• Forgiveness is making peace when you did not get what you wanted.
• Forgiveness is acknowledging the hurt.

What Forgiveness Is Not

• Forgiveness is not condoning your partner’s unkindness or excusing poor behavior.
• Forgiveness is not forgetting that something painful happened.
• Forgiveness does not have to be an otherworldly or religious experience.
• Forgiveness does not require you to reconcile with your partner.
• Forgiveness does not ask you to give up having painful feelings.
• Forgiveness does not mean you can’t take your partner to court to get what is owed to you.
• Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay together.