Debate vs Relate
The other day my husband and I were in a “tiff”…each of us seeing a different perspective… each of us trying to convince the other that our perception was the correct one. Yes, even marriage therapists fall into this trap.... READ MORE
I Choose TO Love
There is a big difference between falling in love and staying in love. One takes a pulse and the other takes a commitment.
I can tell you that after being married 45 years, staying in love is not something that happens automatically, nor is it easy. Yet real love is the glue that holds a marriage together… a foundation built on rock and not sand... READ MORE
How Our Hormones Affect Us
Pam, 52, was diagnosed Bi-polar twenty years ago. She was on several medications including Lithium. Though she owned a successful business, she could no longer manage it and turned the reins over... READ MORE
I first heard about EFT (Tapping) when our daughter was going through cancer ten years ago. In those years, I have seen amazing self-healing happen, both personally and professionally, by merely tapping on certain meridian points... READ MORE
I AM Angry
A client has allowed me to share a letter she wrote to her husband after finding out he’d been having an affair. I AM angry... I’m angry that you had sex with her I’m angry that you got naked with her... READ MORE
Clients come to therapy in hopes of changing something about themselves, their spouse, boss, parents, kids, circumstances, etc. Most of the time it’s about changing someone other than themselves... READ MORE
Children Will Listen
Robert has a drinking problem to help him deal with stress. Sue is having an affair. Ken is addicted to porn. Becky has a body image and eating disorder. She’s addicted to her scale. Neil believed lying was in his DNA... READ MORE
Ask any women to describe a perfect husband and what do you think she describes?
Recently, I did just that with my client, Emily, while husband Nick was sitting beside her. When we listed all the qualities/behaviors she aspired for the perfect husband, I read them back to both... READ MORE
HOW DO WE GET INTIMACY BACK?
In a recent session with Alan and Patty (not real names), Alan asked me how do they begin to be intimate again. Married 23 years, empty nesters, and he travels every week; they have become roommates. Life got in the way and marriage took a back seat... READ MORE
“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself,” is a phrase I use a lot in my practice with clients. But what exactly does that mean, and how do you do it when you’ve been truly hurt by someone? Since it seems to have been a theme in my practice the last couple of weeks, I thought this would be a good topic to begin my blog. Let me give you an example of how I addressed this topic with a client this week... READ MORE