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My husband and I celebrated our 50th anniversary last week.  We actually renewed our wedding vows at the Elvis Chapel in Vegas.  It was a blast! We have had a lot Read more

The reciprocity principle is one of the basic laws of social psychology: It says that “in many social situations we pay back what we received from others.” You smile at me, Read more

MORE ABOUT FORGIVENESS…just because.  What Is Forgiveness Forgiveness is for you and not for your partner.Forgiveness is taking back your power from being wounded.Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel now.Forgiveness Read more

SOLUTION-ORIENTED THINKING  Solution-oriented/focused thinking is based on the respectful assumption that clients have the inner resources to construct highly individualized and uniquely effective solutions to their problems (Insoo Kim Berg). The Read more

Our little puppy, Levi, needed to do his morning “constitution.” Rather than first clearing a spot for Levi, which I asked him to do before heading out the door, my Read more

Cheese and Wine can get better with age… but love and sex??? The principal author, Bernie Zilbergeld, of Sex and Love at Midlife: It’s Better Than Ever drew upon decades of clinical experience Read more

Kintsugi, or gold splicing, is a physical sign of resilience. This technique, developed in Japan during the 15th century, consists of repairing a broken object by accentuating its cracks with Read more

We can all agree that 2020 was a year of uncertainty, fear, stress, anxiety, frustration, sickness, loss, grief, discouragement, being overwhelmed, delayed dreams, isolation from family and friends… to name Read more

The body of an adult human contains an incredible 100,000 km (60,000 miles) of blood vessels, and 13 billion nerve cells.   An adult has 206 bones. Nearly half of them are Read more

This article by Crown Malone is worth sharing. During a seminar, a woman asked"How do I know if I am with the right person?"The author then noticed that there was a Read more

You are a sexual person from the day you are born until the day you die. So why is it such a delicate and embarrassing topic for married couples to Read more

“Just tell me what to do,” seems to be a common sentiment of many husbands visiting my office. They seem to be at a loss as to how to make Read more

“I am tired of always being the one who talks about the relationship, cares about it, and willing to try. Why is it always up to me? Doesn’t he have Read more

In the past week, this topic has come up several times in different ways. I ran into a former client at a mall and she’s telling me about her divorce Read more

“To thrive in life you need three bones: A wishbone, A backbone, and A funny bone." (Reba McEntire) Just completing a course on “Health-Related Benefits of Humor and Laughter,”I thought I would Blog Read more

“Experience is not what happens to us, it’s what we do with what happens to us.”  - Aldous Huxley One of my favorite questions I ask my clients is, “What is Read more

It’s amazing how Mother Nature can change our outdoor environment in a week based on the season.  Living here in the Midwest, we can go from cold wintery winds, dead Read more

The other day my husband and I were in a “tiff”…each of us seeing a different perspective… each of us trying to convince the other that our perception was the Read more

There is a big difference between falling in love and staying in love. One takes a pulse and the other takes a commitment. I can tell you that after being married Read more

How Our Hormones Can Affect Us Pam, 52, was diagnosed Bi-polar twenty years ago.  She was on several medications including Lithium.   Though she owned a successful business, she could no Read more

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)  I first heard about EFT (Tapping) when our daughter was going through cancer ten years ago. In those years, I have seen amazing self-healing happen, both personally Read more

A client has allowed me to share a letter she wrote to her husband after finding out he’d been having an affair.   I AM angry...I’m angry that you had sex with Read more

We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. (Aristotle) Clients come to therapy in hopes of changing something about themselves, their spouse, boss, parents, kids, Read more

Robert has a drinking problem to help him deal with stress. Sue is having an affair. Ken is addicted to porn. Becky has a body image and eating disorder. She’s Read more

Ask any women to describe a perfect husband and what do you think she describes? Recently, I did just that with my client, Emily, while husband Nick was sitting beside her. Read more

In a recent session with Alan and Patty (not real names), Alan asked me how do they begin to be intimate again. Married 23 years, empty nesters, and he travels Read more

“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself,” is a phrase I use a lot in my practice with clients. But what exactly does that mean, and how do you do Read more